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Sound pretty bold? It makes me nervous and scared just saying that but it’s time for me to challenge my comfort zone. This is a story into the abyss of my mind, and my beliefs about what’s possible.
When I sat down to write this blog, I started with the subject line, ‘How Billionaires Manage Their Fortunes’. I’d been researching this information and had some great key points from what I’d learned. I discovered that billionaires handle their money very different to most. However, I felt stuck. The writing was hard, I couldn’t get any flow, and it was becoming quite frustrating.
I wanted to stick with that subject and I had time scheduled to meditate, relax, and dedicate to reading, learning, and writing. As is so often the case however, when your mind is open, you can gain some great insights. Earlier that day, I had an epiphany from a conversation that, had I not been open minded and really listening, might have passed straight through my ears.
A former AFL player has been staying with us. He’s come up to play in the grand final with the club where I’m the fitness coach. I won’t say his name because I don’t want to appear to be name dropping. Even mentioning that he played AFL sounds a bit egotistic. I don’t say that to impress you though. I say it to impress upon you that he is someone who would be considered successful in many people’s eyes. He’s made it to the top of his field in his sport (career) and been rewarded financially for his ability, dedication, and hard work.
We were driving and got onto the topic of cars and family. He, like most people who have seen the inside of my Toyota Kluger, was amazed at the airplane-style seating of four child car seats - two in the middle row and two in the back row (Klugers are the best family SUV in my opinion). He told me about his love of nice cars and some of the cars that he’d owned. I told him that it was one of my big dream goals to own a BMW and that I’ve given myself until June 30 to get one. I went on to tell him how I had my big three dream goals on the wall above my laptop, in the spare room where he was staying, but I’d taken them down before he arrived, because I was embarrassed for anyone to see them. He said to me, "Brus, you gotta have goals. Don’t be embarrassed by your goals no matter what they are and how big they might be. I grew up poor. Cars aren’t a good thing to buy financially, but that’s what I love and I make no excuses for that."
Those words hit me hard. He gave me confidence. He gave me the realisation I needed. I realised that I was never going to achieve those big dream goals if I couldn’t own them. If I was going to keep them to myself, give myself an out, lessen their importance, or accept anything but, I was never going to achieve them. I needed to own my goals and take responsibility for their success.
I’ve been doing the Michael Hyatt Best Year Ever course at the beginning of the year for the last two years and it has set the foundation for each year, enabling me to achieve some unbelievable things. At the beginning of each year, I set ten goals and I’m not afraid to admit those goals. They’re not such big, hairy scary goals. But the big dream goals are. I got the idea of big dream goals from Lewis Howes and James Wedmore. Lewis Howe’s talks about them in his book, ‘The School of Greatness’, and James Wedmore talked about them when I was with him at a workshop in Laguna, in mid 2015. I also listen to both their podcasts* when I’m driving. The impact they have on me in phenomenal. I spend a huge amount of my time each week listening to them and it has a big influence on my life and success.
I came across Lewis’ book when I was finishing the Best Year Ever course in January this year. It was perfect timing to add to the ten goals I’d already set. The purpose of the ten goals is to create a plan and direction for the year ahead. You can see how you will achieve those goals. The idea of the big dream goals though, is that they be so big, you can’t foresee how you can possibly achieve them. They should really scare the bejesus out of you.
The big dream goals that I set apart from the BMW one, was to go to Canada at Christmas and have $100,000 in the bank by mid December. The Canada one didn’t scare me so much as the money one did. I don’t earn enough to save the amount required each fortnight to make that much money in that much time. I honestly don’t know how I can possibly have $100,000 in the bank by December.
James did a podcast recently about manifestation. It’s about being intentional about what you want and being open to how that manifests. For example, in 2015 I said to myself I’d have the opportunity to travel to the U.S. for work, free of charge. In May of that year, I was offered a free business building workshop in the U.S., normally costing $2,000. All I had to do was get myself there. If I had’ve got hung up on specifics, I would’ve probably ignored that opportunity and missed the many doors that it opened. Unknowingly, I created a big dream goal and this was the way it manifested. At the time, there was no way to know if this was the opportunity, except to go with it. I had to listen to my intuition and go with my gut. At that point, I’d started doing that more and more, and this felt right. That workshop was run by James Wedmore.
After my conversation that day with our house guest, I had a meeting with my web designers and marketing team, Dash. We were discussing my strategic direction and immediate focus for the next few months. I told them about this story and my big dream goal. I still felt anxious and uncomfortable telling them I’d have $100,000 in the bank by the end of the year, and to tell you the truth, I still feel slightly uncomfortable writing this now. I liken it to walking through the mall naked. It’s extremely scary and nerve-racking. I said to one of the guys that, given what I’d learned from the year previous, I was open to how this could manifest in my life. I said, “Even if it manifests as 100,000 subscribers or 100,000 opportunities, I’d be happy.” I realised I was still making excuses and trying to reduce my anxieties by saying that. I was giving the voice on my shoulder too much power. I needed to say it exactly how it was. I will have $100,000 in the bank by December 16, 2016. I drove home from that meeting with a steely resolve to write this blog. I decided that if I was going to take myself seriously, and these big dream goals seriously, that I need to put them out there. I need to stop being scared, nervous, and anxious. I need to stop worrying about what other people might think and not let their limitations become mine. The purpose of my big dream goals are to annihilate my limitations.
So, here it is. In my words, to all the people who I appreciate deeply for allowing me to share my thoughts, beliefs and knowledge. I will have $100,000 in my bank by December 2016.
What’s your big dream goal? Take the courageous step to leave it in the comments below, for all to see.
*Lewis Howes' The School of Greatness Podcast:
*James Wedmore's Mind Your Business Podcast:
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